- The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust: “we had every confidence in the staff”.
- A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance: “a boost to my ego”.
Having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities
Working in business has taught me many things. Mostly it has been centered around e-Commerce and web marketing etc. Since becoming self-employed as a consultant however I have had the ability to deal with many different types of people on a one to one basis. I am admittedly a people person, the quickest way to drive me crazy would be to stick me in an empty room with no-one to talk to. What I still find interesting though is how different people can be, and this all seems to boil down to Ego. Now don’t get me wrong, confidence is a good thing, being confident in your abilities in my opinion only makes you better at what you do.
The dangerous aspect of this is when it comes to the Ego stage. Again having an Ego is OK, when people start recognising you for your particular skill set or ability and telling you about it this will boost your ego. The difference here is your ability to keep it in check. I have met a few people now who have tipped over the edge of having an Ego into being Arrogant. This is not good.
I like to think that I will get on with most people, I always try to look for the best in people, but I do really struggle with arrogance, and people who have an ego for no perceivable reason. I see the way that these arrogant people talk to their members of staff or colleagues, and I don’t understand it. I have the pleasure of meeting some fantastically interesting people, people who by their own right should have an ego and you could perhaps forgive them for being a little bit arrogant. However they are the exact opposite. CEO’s and Managing Directors of multi-million pound businesses who are amongst the most humble and modest people I have ever met. There is a common relationship between the people I meet who are arrogant and those that are not.
Those that are arrogant see people as a means to an end. Their staff are there to do a job, if they don’t do that job they can be replaced. Their business partners are there to benefit themselves too so why shouldn’t they do the same. Arrogance leads to believing that you know it all, which is never the case. Whereas the modest and humble people I meet all recognise what their biggest asset is. People. They surround themselves with the best people they can. They are not threatened by them because they know something they don’t. They surround themselves with people who can bridge the knowledge or experience gap that exists. By doing this they acknowledge they don’t know it all, and therefore check their ego.
For me, people are the most interesting aspect of any business. Everyone is different, everyone has different stories to tell and experiences to share. Whenever I meet someone new, I want to find out more about them, and hopefully learn from them.
What I am getting at is, for me there is no room for ego’s and arrogance…it’s simple. Work Hard and Be Nice To People.